the whole and nothing but

The truth is, when we are rejected by another we tend to use phrases like, "Oh he's just not mature enough," or "we're not compatible, her strengths and my own don't really sync up" and these can be quite true. However, when they are used in the context of pain they are like masks we cloak ourselves in. They are used to keep us from looking foolish for having such faith in the possibility that this is the human we are supposed to do life with or from seeming unwanted as if we have nothing to offer to another. But the reality is, in wearing these masks we are fools for when we put them on we build walls and walls are much harder to climb than keeping a clear doorway so that it can be opened by the right person.

I've worn the mask far too long. I was rejected recently. I chose someone but I wasn't chosen back. For someone who put brick upon brick and enclosed herslef in,who uses doubt as a map and who panics at every decision from how I want my coffee prepared to whether or not I really am going back to school, the beautiful thing about choosing someone whole-heartedly but not being chosen back is that I finally made a choice. I was brave and bold and I made a faith-filled choice. There was no room for doubt. I befriended clarity and I chose this person with all their strong suits and every thing I was aware that they lacked. I was willing to give my whole heart and such a thing is quite rare. Such a thing is a most precious act and such a thing gives us our power back.

I submit to you and encourage you, take off the mask. Let authenticity be your map through this thing, this life and capture the power that your heart makes in just making a decision whether the decision is reciprocated or not. All in.